Have you heard of the term ‘self-love’? It’s the act of showing love to yourself – and never has it been more important. There are real benefits to creating your own internal support system rather than relying on a partner, friends or family to be there for you when you need it.
Having expectations of other people can lead to disappointment or heartbreak if your expectations aren’t met. We all have it in us to give ourselves what we need, without seeking it externally!
Be nice to yourself
The first step to becoming a friend to yourself is to treat yourself like you would treat a friend. That means that you need to stop being self-critical and beating yourself up. Start by acknowledging your good qualities, talents and abilities and begin to appreciate your own unique self.
Stand back from your thoughts
Just because a thought pops into your mind, you don’t need to believe it and act upon it. Not all thoughts should be believed. If you’re struggling with negative thoughts like “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t cope with this” remember that it’s your choice whether or not you believe those thoughts.
Send compassion to the part of you that is hurting
Being a friend to yourself involves adopting and mastering the art of self-compassion. Compassion isn’t forceful or solution-focused. Compassion is accepting, peaceful, and loving, without the need to control or change anything.
Become your own best friend and start being there for yourself!